Every year I make goals and resolutions. And every year, I don’t even come close to meeting my unrealistic goals and expectations (I’m talking to you goal of losing 30 pounds)! This year I am looking at things very differently. Read on to see what 2018 looks like for me and why my whole outlook has changed!
I still have goals, a lot of them in fact, but it’s like I have suddenly realized who I want to be and how I am going to get there this year. Instead of giant, unrealistic goals, I have decided I just want to work each and every day on becoming the person I want to be.
As I started writing all of my goals down, I realized it is all about becoming mentally, spiritually, and physically healthy! Every goal I wrote to help me become the person I want to be, and every habit I track, falls into one of those 3 categories.
Becoming the person I want to be has taken a lot of thought and effort. I have always struggled with anxiety and OCD, and have recently come across some things that have helped me feel like I can conquer these issues this year and beyond.
1. I’m SO Freaking Freaked Out Journal
My sister got me this I’m So Freaking Freaked Out journal. I LOVE it. Every day I can write down my “worry and stress” notes and leave them in the notebook. Write them down, and forget about them for the day instead of stewing on them all night. It has a daily stress meter you can mark, which is just cute, and hilarious quotes throughout the journal.
2. Declutter Your Mind
Declutter Your Mind. Oh man, this book is singlehandedly the most life-changing self-help book I have read to date. And I have read a lot of self-help books! I loved everything about this book. I loved the simple approach to decluttering our minds, learning to control our thoughts instead of letting them control us, and solutions on what to do when our thoughts are running wild.
I think every single person who struggles with anxiety, racing thoughts, stress, or OCD should read this book. I plan on referring to this book and my journal often to help me with my goal of positive thinking!
Do you cringe when you hear the word meditate? I used to think meditating was REALLY weird, until I tried it.
I now have it as one of my goals to meditate and deep breath for at LEAST 5 minutes a day. 5 minutes a day. Do you know how simple that is?! I do it right before bed and it is amazing. There are so many great meditating apps, and online resources about the benefits of meditating. Just read Declutter Your Mind and you will be convinced that you should give it a try.
I am currently using the app Simple Habit, but there are a lot of other great ones as well.
Physical health. This is the section we all love to hate. This is USUALLY the reason that gym’s are packed in January, and why everyone seems to eat a little more healthy, and why every women dreams of their dream weight. So many people set some type of New Year’s Resolution regarding weight loss or diet.
I do this every year as well. Every year I set a totally unrealistic weight loss expectation and imagine the weight just melting off my body. Unfortunately, that is not reality because by mid-February I am back to my old eating habits.
This year I decided to set much more realistic expectations for my health, including being happy with my body and the progress I have made so far. Since I am on the journey of becoming the person I want to be I made health goals that I feel like I can maintain throughout my life.
1. Consistent Exercise
I have always been an exerciser. Exercise makes me feel good about myself, boosts my “happy” endorphins, and reduces my stress level. It’s a no-brainer for me to exercise.
Last year I amped up game by starting CrossFit. I still love it, and plan on putting in the work this year as well, or for as long as my body can handle it :). Basically my goal regarding exercise is 45-60 minutes at least 4 X per week. I track this with my favorite app, Habit Bull.
2. Limit Sugar
My nephew and I are going this whole year limiting our sugar intake. We are aiming to keep each day below 30 grams of sugar (not including fruit), but all of the obvious offenders are off limits. Cakes, donuts, cookies, brownies, pie, soda, etc.
I have done countless no-sugar challenges and I always feel so much better once my body gets past the terrible withdrawal stage. The 30 grams a day still allows me to sweeten my oatmeal, eat a yogurt, and enjoy a few pieces of extra dark chocolate after dinner. When I can look forward to a little bit of sugar every day, I am much less likely to binge on junk!
3. Get Enough Sleep
This is the absolute killer to my physical health! There just does not seem to be enough hours in the day to fit everything in that I need to do! It’s been years since I have had healthy sleep patterns. This year I am determined to get at least 7 hours a night as often as I can!
I am excited to see the difference it makes in my health journey.
For me, this is the most important of all…
I found myself very, very depressed this past year. When I dug down deep I knew it was because I was not kneeling in prayer every day, I was not reading scriptures every day, and I was not strengthening my family relationships.
When I am not nurturing my spiritual side, everything else falls by the wayside. So this year I am determined to make some significant spiritual changes.
1. Kneeling in Prayer
This seems so basic, but it seems like I got in a very bad habit of flopping in bed after a long, exhausting day, muttering a few words of prayer and falling asleep. Those prayers were not meaningful at all, and were certainly not the conversation with God I need on a daily basis. This year I want to kneel and pray every single morning and night.
2. Reading Scriptures
No day goes unread in 2018. I am not setting a time limit, or chapter quota. Just meaningful scripture reading every single day.
3. No More Yelling
I yell. I hate it about myself, but I constantly yell at my kids. I never thought I would yell when I had kids, then I had 3 rowdy boys, and now I yell. A lot. It never does any good and only causes contention in the house.
I want to stop yelling. I want to be more present with my boys. I want to have a good relationship with each of them! The family is absolutely part of my spiritual health, and I determined to become the Mom I want to be.
You might have noticed a giant music note in the picture at the top… this music note represents the “extra’s” in my life. Things I love, that if I am fully mastering the other parts of my life I will take the time for as well.
I love music. I play the piano and ukulele. When I have time, and I feel good about my mental, physical, and spiritual health, I will take the time to practice.
Another part of my life that I am putting in my “extra” category for this year is my Thrive business. Last year I stressed myself sick about my business. It’s not going to be my focus this year.
There are countless other extra’s represented in that music note. I would love to write a children’s book, take some film classes, learn Portuguese The list goes on. I hope that all of these things will come with time, and maybe in a different season they will. For now though, this is the path I am taking this year. A path to a better me. I think 2018 is going to be a great year!